friend anymore!) That is her way to get her own way. A young child will try to manipulate and be in charge. My Christine tries to do that today. Should I let her get away? If I do, then I'm not loving her properly. I want to be my children's friends but they must learn that I love them even though I don't give them what they want. Letting children control and manipulate you puts a burden on them. Discipline relieves them of this burden and builds an essential foundation on their character.