Last week, a deeply wounded Christian woman cried profusely during a Saturday group meeting that I was leading. During sharing time, she related about her unfaithful husband’s affairs and betrayal of their marriage and family. According to her, her husband married and had children with her while having an existing legal marriage (“bigamy”) and involved with other women. Such unbearable pain led her to thoughts of murder and hiring a killer.
Moreover, based on her account, her husband and the OW (“other woman”) were even going to church and into a line of pastors in their family! Incredible, isn’t it? But it’s not incredible from the Scripture’s standpoint. The Bible tells us that such typifies the world we live in – a world of people broken by sin, self-deception, and rebellion against God. Without Christ’s salvation and recovery, we are all under the power of darkness and Satan’s strongholds.
How can this woman heal and overcome the trial? Definitely, not by committing a murder or hiring a killer, because the enemy would very much want that for her total destruction. But, by grace and praying that her husband and the OW, will be saved and touched by the Holy Spirit. Even if her husband and the OW may be in the church every Sunday or read the Bible, it makes no difference. Because the relationship is adulterous, they are living in darkness, under enemy’s control, or else they would be pointing themselves towards God and home.
Always, the “secret behind the scenes” is the presence of an invisible enemy in our life as believers in Christ. In the case of that crying Christian woman in our Saturday meeting, the OW or person is not the enemy. Satan, the evil one, is her enemy. Regardless of what happened, that other woman is a victim of darkness, just like her husband. They’ve been taken captive by the enemy and operating under Satan’s control.
The key to victory for that crying woman and us is not “flesh and blood” weapons, but the armor of God in fighting this invisible war. As Ephesians 6: 12, 13 states, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”