Your Self-Worth Is Not Based On Whether Another Person Loves or Rejects You
A most serious effect of rejection is that it may produce a sense of worthlessness (whether consciously or unconsciously) in a person. Having your self-esteem threatened by an individual, especially someone you trust or love such as a father/mother or wife/husband, can be devastating. It can keep you from reaching your full potential with God.
Out of the rejection experience, the mind can play tricks! Thoughts of low self-esteem often weigh any one down. "This is the end of the world." "There is no more hope in my life." "This is my last chance at love." "I'm useless." Whether you believe it or not, the prince of darkness (Satan) is involved in this process of sending "deadly whispers" into your mind. His job is to kill and destroy.
YOU are the one who is in charge of what thoughts enter your mind. When bad, negative, or deadly thoughts enter your mind, you can choose to replace them with good, positive, life-giving thoughts immediately. Therapists call it "thought-stopping" or "thought-control."
"... whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy -- think about such things" (Philippians 4:8).
How then do you know which thoughts are good, positive, and life-giving?
This is how you know -- "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - His good, pleasing, and perfect will" (Romans 12:2).
With God's Word, you'll realize that God loves you, that there is hope, and that your self-worth is not based on whether another person loves or rejects you. Your self-esteem is based on the love that Christ has for you.
The apostle John writes, "This is how God showed His love among us. He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us ... If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence ... Perfect love casts out fear ..." (1 John 4: 9-10, 15-18)
God's truth and thoughts will ultimately cure your mind ... and build your self-esteem. But this happens only when you have a personal, growing relationship with God. Would you like to have one?