Sunday, September 26, 2010

Healing From Abuse Through Depersonalization

I have a personal secret. I was abused. Unfortunately, I got close and vulnerable to the "sick." I came face-to-face with evil people. It's a strange feeling, but their presence is real. And I did suffer the pain of their moral or emotional retardation. Outside of divine intervention, a number of them will have no concept or even an ounce of insight into themselves and the damage they're doing to someone else. What has helped me initiate healing from this type of woundedness? Psychologists call it "depersonalization." It's not easy. But over time, I learned to "reframe" the evil act or abuse done to me from something so personal to the objective truth of evil and freedom of choice co-existing in a fallen world. That may involve realistic giving up any expectation of change, amends, or reconciliation. If you were abused by evil doers, one of the beginning elements of healing is not to take things personally! It's all about the unfortunate human condition that on this earth you can become a victim of evil and the hurts that go along with it.

"... Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil. For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed."(John 3: 19, 20)

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