Wednesday, January 26, 2011
When You Become A Victim Of The Sin Of Your Spouse (Part 1)
John had surely asked that question over and over again. His wife of 13 years literally ran away with a foreigner she had met online, leaving him with 3 young children at home. Prior to, during, and after the discovery of the adulterous affair, John's wife left a trail of lies, betrayal, and deception. She covered up the affair by claiming that "she had to do it" for the children and work in the country where the OP (other person) is.
Online, John discovered evidences/photos of his wife "marrying" overseas (bigamy). Then, about 4 years after she fled, she filed a divorce in the local court of their country against John using half-truths, fabrications, and false statements. Not in the right frame of mind and heart, John's wife simply continues to sin.
Totally wounded with the pain of the trauma, John needed many things, including psychotherapy or counseling to heal from the ongoing sins of his wife. Psychological needs. Emotional Needs. Social support. Financial provisions. Child care. But chief among these needs is John's need to relocate himself in the center of God's presence and will.
"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers." (Hebrews 13:4)
" 'I hate divorce,' says the Lord God .." (Malachi 2:16)