When tragedy or sorrow comes, do not fear it. Embrace it! There is "a time to weep," as the writer of Ecclesiastes says. Welcome your tears - they can serve as cleanser of the emotional backwashes of your life. If you hold them back, they may eat away at your inner being. However, just remember: don't entertain the sorrow too long! Long ago, a rabbi in Talmud said, "Who broods excessively over his sorrow will weep for yet another death." I have witnessed such cases, and I'm sure you have also. There is a time to say goodbye to sorrow. Harness it. Turn it to wisdom and blessing. Move on.