Psychotherapists talk about "dredging up of feelings." This refers to the bondage of unfelt or repressed emotions of the past being dragged into the present. Such then makes the experience of current pain greater and out of proportion. A way to heal will involve unblocking memories to free one's self from repressed pain. Are you ready for this? Examine your history. Recall past betrayals, hurt feelings, or bad experiences associated with any or more of the following: mother, father, sisters or brothers, friends, teachers in school, religious leaders. Allow the feelings to enter in. Grasp and understand them. Then, see if any of these past pains are linked to your present pains and heartwounds.