In therapy as in life, you can only win by losing. This is hard for a proud, hard-driving individual. I join with faith-based psychiatrist and bestselling author, Dr. M. Scott Peck, in seeing that "coming out of hiding" is a most important event that leads to true personal recovery and growth. Identification of the core problem is basic in therapy. This is done by giving up one's delusional false self and ego defenses to find that precious, vital core of self. One must embrace darkness to find the light. One must be willing to expose his or her essential self by risking telling another or joining a support group. Hidden in the dark lives one's true self.