A Secret We All Need To Learn
If a person is able to cause or force me to do or say something I don't want to do or say, that person is in control of me. My boundaries are compromised, even lost, in the process.
When I respond, I take control of me and my well being. I have options. I can choose constructive action.
Remember the difference between "responding" and "reacting." When you are reacting, the other is in control. When you respond, you are.
It's a healing choice.