Sunday, April 13, 2014

Till "Conscious Uncoupling" Do Us Part?

Recently, popular American actress Gwyneth Paltrow made headlines with her recent divorcing situation with husband Chris Martin. She calls it "conscious uncoupling."

"Marriage is a human condition that was founded when life expectacy was 33 years old. And now that we live up to 80, one marriage is no longer enough for many of us," says Paltrow.

Paltrow did not invent the term "conscious uncoupling." It's based on a course originated by psychotherapist Katherine Thomas. The term is not synonymous with "divorce" but a stand-in process through which divorcing couples can attempt to be peaceful and gentle with one another in preparation for a final breaking up.

 "Conscious uncoupling" sounds nice or soothing than "divorce". But, in essence, they're exactly the same thing. Spiritually, it's an assault against the sacredness and security of everything God created marriage to be. Such concept is becoming prevalent not only in our society at large but also in the church among married couples. It doesn't represent God's view of marriage and divorce. God hates divorce (Malachi 2: 13-16).

Psychologically, "conscious uncoupling" advances the idea that it is healing and contributing to personal wholeness. Are you unhappy in your marriage? Is your partner not meeting your needs? Then, "consciously uncouple!" And along the way "consciously uncouple" again on the road. Amazing happiness! "Conscious uncoupling" rends and tears an individual, marriage, and family apart. So how can it be psychologically healing and healthy? What is comforting and liberating about it?

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