Saturday, August 30, 2014
Are You Ready For Recovery?
I've witnessed marvelous instances of recovery of broken individuals, couples, and families over the years. Each of them is a testimony that change and healing is possible if and when one humbly and honestly embrace reality and commit to recovery work.
At the same time, I've also seen countless situations where people are not ready to recover. They insist on over-rationalizing, blame-shifting, excuse-making, projecting their faults, or simply denying their reality. These are often nothing more than subtle evasion tactics.
How do you know you're ready for recovery? Here are your "diagnostic" questions:
1. How worse will it have to happen before you're ready to recover?
2. At what point you'd admit that you've become out of control?
3. How much are you prepared to lose in pursuit of your addiction or dysfunctional choices?
4. How much pain are you willing to endure for the sake of your problem?
5. Would your life be better with or without your addiction, thoughts, or behaviors?
6. When will enough be enough? After 5 years of misery? After you lose your marriage, your family, your money?
7. What would you be willing to do to get free?