The Potter And The Clay
That's what some people say, when they get hurt. People can get stuck or unnecessarily linger in pain. That is, when they choose to heal alone ... to self-medicate or self-help.
It's like the Potter and the clay. Only the Potter can mould the clay, isn't it? Not the clay moulding the clay. Healing takes place in relationship, not in isolation.
As Henry Drummond puts it, "Every man's character remains as it is, until it is compelled by impressed forces to change. Our failure has been the failure to put ourselves in the way of the impressed forces. There is a clay, and there is a Potter; we have tried to get the clay to mould the clay."