I can't speak for you. But from what I learn in my life's walk, self dilemmas are common among humans. Some people - at least from external appearances - seem to see life on a black and white basis. Things are either right or wrong. Not for me. At times, I wind up in a gray or undetermined area.
In Charles Schulz's popular Peanuts cartoons, Lucy is philosophizing and Charlie is listening. "Charlie Brown," Lucy begins, "life is a lot like a deck chair. Some place it so they can see where they're going. Others place it to see where they've been. And some so they can see where they are at the present." Charlie sighs, "I can't even get mine unfolded!"
There are countless voices these days. Some are loud or soft. Many are enticing. Quite a lot can be downright convincing. If you don't know your self well, it can really be so confusing. If you listen long enough to the wrong voices inside your head or outside of you, you'll be tempted to just let your glands or hormones drive you. It can be easier to get a rush towards pleasure and satisfaction without restraint. No question. But ultimately, you end up damaging or hurting the very core of your self or well being.
Self dilemmas or confusion have the potential of being life's most destructive happiness spoilers. They can be capable of producing misery, even psychopathology. Being stuck, not understanding your self or knowing what to do in the face of life's deepest challenges ... ah my friend, that's truly a tough call.