Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Coping With Grief and Loss
If so, it's more essential than ever to take care of your self. The stress of a major trauma or loss can instantly deplete your energy and emotional supplies. If outside your capacity already, an experienced therapist can help you work through the severe emotions and overcome obstacles to your grief work.
Funny thing, when I write stuff like this, I feel a little dated ... somewhat soap boxish. I sense there's a whole gang of macho men out there possibly making fun of me and my feelings talk. If a little confession will help, I openly admit that I did try to suppress my grief over my life's share of losses. Yet surely I discovered that I can't really avoid facing my feelings forever.
It's true for all of those who come for therapy and counseling. In order to heal, a grieving person have to acknowledge the pain. Trying to avoid the feelings of sadness and loss and processing them completely only prolongs the grieving process. Unresolved grief, incomplete grieving, can lead to complications such as depression, alcohol or drug abuse, fears, anger, and a host of health/medical conditions.
Grief can be very lonely. Even when you have family members or loved ones and friends around, grief can still feel overwhelming. Sharing your sorrows with a therapist and with others who have experienced similar losses can help move you on faster and more safely. If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort that spirituality can offer you. Spiritual activities such as praying and going to church can offer solace.