The Elephant, Mr. Scrooge: Healing Lessons
After my session with a wounded couple two days ago, my mind
seemed to have been visited by images of the “elephant.” The elephant is
the largest land animal on earth. And one of the most powerful. Yet i’d
been reflecting that it takes only one rope to restrain one big
elephant.
Here is how it works, as I reflect further.
When the elephant was a “child” or young, he is tied to a large
tree. For weeks, the young elephant will strain, protest, pull but the
rope holds him fast to the tree. So eventually, the elephant gives up.
Then, when the elephant reaches his full size and strength, he won’t
struggle or choose to get free. Once he feels resistance, he stops.
Why is this so, I thought.
The huge elephant still believes that he
is held captive. He still thinks that he does not have the capacity or
power to choose and break free.
That story is very much like our journey to heal our wounded inner
child. When stuck, we are all called to leave childhood and our mother
and father, so we can enter and live fully our adulthood.
A second image entered my mind after my recent session. It’s Mr.
Scrooge! That unhealed, wretched man in the Christmas Carol story. Well,
Mr Scrooge did not become a new, healed man because of Christmas cheer.
Rather I was reflecting that his transformation occurs when the spirit
of the future permits him to witness his own death and strangers
squabbling over his possessions.
Well, the healing message behind Mr. Scrooge’s story is simple and
profound: Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death
may save us.
In the sessions that I worked with terminally ill
patients, I witness a great many, facing death or the years diminishing,
underwent significant and positive personal change. They re-prioritized
their values and started to trivialize the trivia in their lives.
Internal wounds melt away, they found true meaning of life in their
remaining years, which are not that many.
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