Jack Ma is China's famous multi-billionaire. He was at first a serial failure before he striked success. Failed many exams at school from primary to college. Rejected from Harvard 10 times. Turned down for 30 jobs. Only interviewee out of 24 rejected by KFC.
He is living proof that failure is part of success.
The world would have us believe that failure has no value.
Now, we can't be sure about that.
In our culture, there is indeed a lot of emphasis on instant success. If you don't hit big at a certain point or time, you're a failure.
So many of us strive for the elusive overnight "success" status, not realizing that in and of itself it doesn't really mean much.
In therapy too, many among us want instant success. Magic. Overnight recovery. Like instant coffee, we unrealistically expect instant relief to our deepest pains. Rather than a candle that burns slow and steady for a long time.
Many years ago in my youth, I was a chess champion. I tell you, the training was long and hard to become one. Instead of resorting to available tricks or shortcuts, I focused on the slow burn.
Rather than "enduring" my training, I learned to enjoy the process and what I do.
That made me win games, even after painful losses. Become a champion.
Life is creativity. Focus on the "long game" instead of short-term results that don't last.
Love the process. That way, you'll be a steady flame, not a flash in the pan.
A champion in creating your best life, even after your biggest failures.