Everyone talks about it. We want to see and experience it.
You look for it. You long for it. You hope and wish to find that one fellow human being who will truly love you, and whom you'll truly love in return.
You think that if you find him or her, you've found true love to make you happy. True love, most of us tend to believe, lies from outside of us.
I'm used to hearing individuals or couples saying, "I can't live without you." So when one loses the other, he or she also loses his or her self.
Even if you get true love from outside of you, it will only be for awhile. It won't last long. True love doesn't work that way.
You and your loved one are two separate individuals. You can love another person without losing your self.
True love then is essentially located from within your self. Not outside of it.
As Ravi Shankar put it, "Seek not outside your self, for all your pain comes simply from a futile search for what you want, insisting where it must be found."
Finding true love then is not about finding your completeness in another person. You don't need another human being to complete you.
In reality, you're already complete and whole as you love and accept your self. If you don't have true love for your self, you can't realistically expect someone to give it to you.
You only need someone in your life when you desire to share with another your wholeness. Bless the other with true love already residing within your heart.
So a next question is, if true love is found within you, how do you know it's there, to attract true love from another person?