Thursday, April 19, 2018
Are You Possessive?
Smothering rather than loving is typical. Parting cannot happen without internal bleeding.
If you ask Nora, she gets blown away with the thought of relaxing her grip on her young adult daughter. Who is leaving and getting married.
Deep inside, she admits fearing surrendering her prized "possession." Even though she must say goodbye eventually.
Because releasing introduces the panic of losing control. The terror of risk. Uncertainty. Concern for safety.
It applies to friendship too. Friendship needs letting your friend have the freedom to be and to do. A space for the other person to grow.
Also, in releasing a dream. At times, we need to come to grips with reality. What really is. So we can let go. And move forward to a new story.
What maturity all this requires!
Dr. Chuck Swindoll once wrote, "The greater the possessiveness, the greater the pain."
What is it that can bring peace to a possessive heart? To turn loose. To let go. Because, in fact, there's nothing or no one that we can truly own.
Everything goes. Sooner or later. Child. Job. Wealth. Romance. Friend. Future. Dream. Health. Even this life.
Things get really safe only when we learn the art of holding things loosely. Everything is safe which is so dedicated to God.