Thursday, April 05, 2018

When was the first time you felt you're important and valued?

In an intake session about 4 years ago, a father and son visited me. They went for help since they'd not been on speaking terms for so long a time.

Most of the father's conversations consisted of his demands and expectations. "You forgot your homework again!" or "You should have a job by now!" or "Stupid, what's that!"

The 20-year-old son had deeply resented his father for years of verbal and physical abuse. It turned to rage and addictions now. He never felt worth or importance as a person.

Towards the end of our meeting, both father and son were sobbing. Tears just flowed freely. They missed loving themselves and loving each other.

Psychotherapists' calendar is full of people who have been mentally and emotionally crippled. One top reason is because they've never been loved enough or unconditionally in their lives.

Unfortunately, most of us have been exposed to very few parents, teachers, or friends who have the capacity to make us feel valued. We all need to know that we're truly loved.

If we are loved, we can feel important and valued.

Earlier in my previous posts, I'd quote Dr. Karl Menninger's statement that "love is the medicine for the sickness of the world."

The medical, psychological, or healthcare field is increasingly acknowledging the power of love to heal the body and mind. It's an essential ingredient of the cure.

No matter how things get terrible, we can make it. If at least one person communicates to us that he or she loves us. And therefore, we feel important and valued.