Thursday, July 12, 2018

It's Not Your Fault; It's Your Responsibility

Let me tell you a story ... with a therapeutic secret.

In the early 1990s, a poverty-stricken young woman filed for protection order and divorce from her husband.

Left with a baby daughter, she had no job. No money to survive. So she signed up for government welfare benefits.

She's estranged from her father. Hadn't spoken to him for years. Her mother died a few years prior to her divorce.

Failed marriage. Divorce. Single mother. Alienated father. In poverty. No job. Now, she's experiencing depression and on the verge of suicide.

However, the 5 years that followed her deep trauma, this woman became one of the world's most successful celebrity multimillionaires.

Her name is Joanne.

Better known as J.K.Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter book series, which became one of the world's best selling books and highest--grossing films of all time.

According to Forbes, Rowling is the first author in history who earned more than $1 billion dollars from writing books.

Here's her therapeutic secret:  It's not your fault; it's your responsibility.

You and I can learn to apply that secret for recovery and wholeness.

When life gets rough or wounding, it's not necessarily your fault. Any kind abuse, trauma, or loss can happen in anyone's life.

But, you can choose to take responsibility over doing something about it. You can give yourself permission to make things better.

As J.K. Rowling herself put it during a 2008 Harvard University commencement address, "Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential ... And so rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life."

Responsibility enables you to re-author your life even from scratch. You find purpose in the pain you went through. You can become new at your best.