Saturday, September 15, 2018

How's Your Movie?

I love movies. The best, healing ones. It's art that teaches us about life.

Actors, performers, and athletes use movie making techniques as a tool. Through it, they visualize characters or successful performances before the event.

I'm reminded of my university varsity chess team's movie making techniques in preparation for a national tournament.

We visualized actual moves, tactics, and strategies en route to the championship trophy. In my crucial match in Board 1, those visualized movies paid off.

How powerful those movies we made!

Do you know that we're all movie makers?

We all create "mental movies." And there are two types: good movie and bad movie.

Let me tell you about Adrian. He's a movie maker.

First off, when he entered therapy, he's struggling about a recurring bad movie. His mental movie was his primary way of compensating for his fear, anger, and worry.

Adrian's mental movie cost his life a lot. It was deeply wed to fantasy and unreality.

So much so that it led him to ignore or discount essential real-life functions. Such as, work, study, relationships, experiences.

During and after therapy, Adrian learned to produce a good movie. He got it. The secret to good movie making: walk out of a bad movie.

As psychologist Dr. Neuharth put it, "It's not real, it's just a movie."

Adrian's new life is a beneficial therapeutic mental movie.

It directed him to real-life insights and experiences, which transformed his fantasy and unrealities.

Indeed, the key to healing is to recognize when your mental movie is costly (unhealthy) rather than beneficial (healthy).

The good movie heals you. You walk out of a bad movie.