The Facts of Life
Our moves need to be based on facts as they really are. Otherwise, we make self-defeating moves and choices.
For instance, Domingo became fused with his work. He reacted as if his life would be finished if he lost his company position.
Diana's self worth merged with his marriage and children. She saw her husband's or children's lack of appreciation as a threat to her whole being.
Pat's sense of self became one with her ability to please and provide for her parents. She saw her mistakes and bankruptcy in business as her last straw.
Domingo, Diana, and Pat all confused their moves.
They reacted out of proportion to their respective "facts of life." And each one of them was not entirely sure why.
When they merged their self worth with external elements, they made blunders handling problems. They got confused about what is and what is not "you."
This error in interpretation of the facts of life, like in chess, only results to unnecessary blunders and losses.
Once you understand what drives it within you, such blunders and losses can be avoided.
It's an essential start to be able to define who you really are and make self-enhancing moves.
In the "Master's Sacred Knowledge," author Allan Ruffos wrote:
"Life is like a game of chess. To win, you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with in-sight and knowledge."