Sunday, June 30, 2019

Facing the Bully

Psychopathy is a known clinical personality disorder. It’s characterized by severe egotism, anti-social behavior, impaired empathy, proneness to lie often, and other abusive language/actions.

Since the early 1800s, doctors who worked with mental patients suffering from psychopathy noticed also what they termed “moral depravity” or moral insanity” about them.

By that terminology, the doctors mean possessing no sense of ethics or of the rights of other people. Psychopaths lack guilt, moral sense, or remorse.

In a recent column for the Philippine Daily Inquirer, U.P. Professor and sociologist Randy David wrote of the country’s president:

“Mr. Duterte sees the world only in the naked terms of coercive power. He allows no room for dignified conversation and mutually respectful negotiation ...”

I can’t help but understand Randy David’s opinion of the president as descriptive of one who is psychopathic. It fits the picture of a bully all too well.

Whether with a leader, family member, friend, or co-worker, dealing with a toxic person such as a psychopath can take a toll on your psychological well being.

If you must deal with a psychopath, Amy Morin, author of the book “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do,” recommends 5 strategies, namely:

1.  Keep your emotions in check.

2.  Don’t show that you’re intimidated.

3.  Don’t buy into their stories.

4.  Turn the conversation back on them.

5.  Opt for an online communication and not face-to-face whenever you can.

Tiffany is 50. She can’t escape daily interaction with her “psychopath boss.” It’s so hard for her to focus and work alongside a toxic person. She almost broke down.

After several sessions in therapy, she saw the importance of building her “emotional muscles.” Her being proactive about taking care of her self and managing her stress saved her on time.

Learn to be and stay mentally strong in the face of a psychopath or bully.


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