Monday, July 22, 2019

“Shared Life” Heals

Dr. Bruce Larson, a wellness author, once shared about a psychiatrist who wrote of the value of “shared life.”  The psychiatrist observed that this kind of emotional hunger is present in all, whether consciously or unconsciously.

Present-day medicine and psychology underscores this therapeutic factor. It means a life of community, belonging, and accountability.

Studies show that many of our mental and emotional dependency problems get to be resolved when with people whom we care about.


In much earlier times, there was virtually no hope for the hard-core alcoholic or addict. Then came the arrival of AA.

 For over 50 years to the present, the success of AA or Alcoholics Anonymous in helping people effectively overcome alcoholic dependency has become well known.

A major thrust of AA is finding healing and wholeness by using the love and power of a Higher Power in the setting of group “shared life” for accountability, community, and belonging.

Psychologists tell us about the psychological  “fear of abandonment.” Since infancy, this fear operates  and never leaves us. 

It’s a well understood aspect of human nature. Whether cold or warm, hungry or lonely, we all want to know that someone will respond.

You remove or damage that “shared life” nature of us, you cause bizarre behavior. Thoughts and feelings are distorted when one gets essentially disconnected from others.

“Shared life” heals. Everyone of us need others to help us be and remain whole in our lives.