Saturday, April 25, 2020
Fear of People Judging You
If you work on or create something and put it out into the world, some people are bound to judge you.
And that can scare you!
Fear of people’s judgment. It’s something that I've come up against a number of times.
It happens, particularly when I’m doing a job, writing, leading a project, or speaking to people.
What is fear of judgment?
Simply put, it’s a fear of what others will think. And also, what you yourself will think.
“What will people think of me if I tell them about my sickness or family problem?”
“What will my wife or kids think of me?”
“What will my neighbors say and think of me?”
“What will strangers or those I’ve never met think of me?”
My art is psychotherapy and writing. I can’t control other people’s thinking about me and what I do.
But I didn’t want to die with my art still inside me.
When I started my independent psychology private practice and writing books many years back, it changed my life.
It’s a time when I really let my real me, my art, my passion, and purpose come out.
Because at that point, I actually got over my fear of judgement from some parts of tradition, institution, and society.
Now this thing is still there in the background. Critics, whether real or imagined, may never leave.
But the important thing is, I'm not going to let it stop me pursue my art and purpose.
My art and purpose is not for me. It’s God’s.
“Critics are those who have failed in literature and art.”
- Benjamin Disraeli