Good people get angry. Even Jesus did.
There is a difference between “anger” and “sin.”
In Ephesians 4, the apostle Paul wrote, “In your anger, do not sin.”
It’s actually a quotation from Psalms:
“In your anger, do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent” (4:4).
I’m just reminded of David. He’s angry all his life at his father and mother who both abused and abandoned him.
It’s a deep, painful process for him in therapy.
Eventually, he came to grips with his source of anger in other aspects of his life and finally dealt with it to heal.
John Bradshaw, a noted therapist and author, observes:
“Perhaps the most damaging consequence of being shame-based is that we don’t know how depressed and angry we really are. We don’t actually feel our unresolved grief. Our false self and ego defenses keep us from experiencing it. Paradoxically, the very defenses which allowed us to survive our childhood trauma have now become barriers to our growth.”
Anger can be controlled.
It’s by response, not by reaction. A practice we need to do if we’re to heal.
In contrast to anger reaction, which is automatic and instinctive, anger response is what you deliberately decide to do in response to some stimulus.