Are You Normal?

Are you normal? How do you know you’re normal?

Writers of psychology books offer differing viewpoints. Often, they answer it by way of describing what’s “abnormal.”

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So, what is “abnormal?” 

The prefix “ab” means “away from.” Thus abnormal is that which is away from or different from what’s normal.

One of my clients, Rina, sees snakes below her bed before she sleeps. When her mother and siblings check it out, there’s nothing.

To her mother and siblings, she’s acting in ways which are abnormal. Her behavior is different from what her family members see as normal reality.

Underneath Rina though is a much deeper reason. She has long-lingering fears, insecurities, and urges since much earlier years that she’s not able to manage.

Since she’s not able to process her inner turmoil enough, she becomes severely conflicted. That led her to act in ways which are odd and unusual.

Two things are shown here to make normal: to be at peace with one’s self and to be at peace with others.

The third thing - most essentially, to make normal - is, to be at peace with God.

An abnormal person is separated or away from God. It’s not normal for a human being to be separated from his Creator.

Most modern textbooks in psychology would accept the first two I mentioned here to define normal - to be at peace with one’s self and to be at peace with others.

Few would accept the third - to be at peace with God.

Yet the reality is, it’s essential. It’s unlikely that a man can truly be normal ... to be at peace with self and others until he is at peace with God.

“And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7)