Should You Blame Your Mother?

Where do all our problems come?

Psychologist and author Dr. David Stoop mentions a “joke” common among psychologists.

He tells,

“If you want to play the blame game, I can move you through it real quick. Do you want to know why you have the problems you have? Because of your mother. And why do you suppose your mother treated you so badly? Because of her mother. And what was her mother’s problem? Why, her mother before her, of course.”

Did you get the “joke?”

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The blame game leads you to nowhere. It only denies, avoids, or aggravates the problem by shirking your own personal responsibility. 

Blaming just proves one main thing:  we are all flawed. We are all imperfect human beings in an imperfect world.

Until we get off the the blame game, unwanted “stuff” will continue to happen in our lives.

“It is easy to blame our parents for our present problems. The fact of the matter is that we have faced a lot of decisions and made many choices in life along the way. If we don’t grow out of our problems and make the right choices, it’s no one’s fault but our own,” wrote Dr. Frank Minirth, a noted psychiatrist.

I also like how Dr. Stoop put it, 

“Blaming other people for our problems does not solve our problems, even if we are right.”

So in the final analysis, it matters little who started it or who is to blame for the problem.

The most essential curative question will be: ”How do you break out of it?”