Why Is A Person an Alcoholic?

I have a client, Lito, who said,

 “Doc, drinking beers with my buddies in the bar makes me happy. It’s my only place where I can be myself and have people put their arms around me. So even if my wife or you tell me to stop it, I simply can’t.”

My stomach churned. He’s already having blood pressure and liver problems due to his continuing drinking. 

His doctors already told him that. Yet he really couldn’t or won’t let go of his drinking.

It’s not hard to feel for Lito though. He needs a refuge, a place of safety. He needs people to accept him as he is and hear him out.

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The bar and its drinking sessions is possibly the best counterfeit there is in the whole world to what is true, healthy fellowship.

Instead of offering reality, it offers escape. Instead of promising real mental, social, and physical health, it dispenses an imitation in the form of liquor.

Christian authors Bruce Larsen and Keith Miller, in their book “The Edge of Adventure,” wrote in a painfully specific way:

“The bar flourishes not because most people are alcoholics, but because God has put into the human heart the desire to know and be known, to love and be loved, and so many seek a counterfeit at the price of a few beers.”

Let’s give those very things that are real to ourselves and others ... let’s not seek what’s not true and genuinely good.